Accountability For The Win: Reach your goals
College drop out Chuck, who worked at the Buy More, became an international spy! You can do more than you think you can, go ahead and give yourself a lot more credit. The magic is in the accountability. Friends make all the difference.
It’s a TV Show, with a Good Lesson
My family watches one show together every night. Right now it is “Chuck.” Chuck is about a regular guy who was expelled from school, and now works at a big box electronics store. Then, Chuck becomes a top CIA agent. (And he gets the girl!)
Granted, he is fictitious, but it’s a good example of understanding that you are more than your past, and you are worthy of more than you might believe.
But Chuck didn’t get there alone. Nope. He had a spy girl and a spy guy train him and believe in him. Every day they poured into helping Chuck grow into the spy they knew he could one day become, even if he didn’t.
Get a Little Help From Your Friends
My point here friends, is that you can do great things, unimaginably great things. But you can do them a lot faster with friends helping you along the way. Here’s a video of me, losing steam in my second trimester.
You’re gonna make it after all
It kept me on track to have my buddies share their workouts on a day I thought I would skip a workout. It held me to it. But guess who helped me drop off all that baby weight? 45 lbs, more than I had gained, four months post partum?
You guys. That’s right. Knowing that your eyes and ears are on me to lead you to a healthier life, is all the accountability I need. So I have a big ask of you…
Stop it with the Stories
Stop telling the stories that keep you from reaching your truest, best self. If you want to lose weight, then eat and move like a person that has the body you deserve would eat and move. Just be that person. If you want a story to be true, LIVE it.
“Oh, easier said than done!” Story alert. That right there is a story. Saying ‘easier said than done’ is a free pass we give ourselves so that we don’t have to feel bad about not living up to our potential. It puts us warmly and safely into the welcoming arms of mediocrity. Is mediocracy the name of the street where you want to retire? Not me.
Replace those limiting thoughts with, “easy to say, easy to live.” You can do this anytime your brain tries to lull you into the comfort zone with a story. Make uncomfortable your new comfortable. Live on the edge of change and excitement and be the new you, right out loud!
Saying in your head; “I’m making a change. I am going to turn over a new leaf,” doesn’t work. Don’t say that. All those broken idioms don’t work. Don’t say what you’re going to do, don’t say anything you’ve said “a million times before.” Instead: have a moment of decision, and change right there. Like a blink of ‘I Dream of Jeannie’s’ eyes, you can be the new you- instantly.
The sooner you accept your new identity, the sooner your life will match it.
Get There With Accountability.
I’m going to share a magic list with you to guarantee you’ll stay accountable.
- Tell yourself what you want
- Say it out loud
- Write it down
- DECIDE- Yes, I’m new now. I’m a different person who does this/acts like this
- Phone a friend
- Tell the world
- Watch your Back
- Get group accountability
- Get one on one accountability
- Post action steps, progress and setbacks on public forums
Saying it to yourself is step 1.
As weird as it sounds, say it out loud, not just in your head. Yell it in the shower or in the car. Do the action of verbalizing to activate your goal.
Then write it down. You can jot it in your journal, write a whole entry, put it on a post-it, write it on your bathroom mirror. Write it down and give it the energy of intention. If you want to go for extra credit, make a vision board. Add it to your wall, hang a picture of your goal where you can see it.
OK now this is the most important part…DECIDE. It isn’t just a word, it’s a verb. An action. Remove the “When X happens, then I am definitely going to Y.” Dump the “I am really going to do it this time, I just need to get ready.” There is ZERO PREP TIME for this one. It’s a switch. Flip it.
Step 2 Let’s Broadcast it.
This involves saying OUT LOUD in a public forum, posting it, telling all of your friends. that’s the step that will dare you into sticking to it. Like Sally told Harry, once it’s out there you can’t put it back, it’s already out there.
I really want you to get into this one. Call your Mom. Call your BFF. Tell people you’re doing this. You should be so convicted, they are slightly worried about you, make it weird. We aren’t used to people saying they are going to mix things up, everyone likes to keep their plans secret. Which is exactly why they don’t achieve the success they want. No one is making them stick to it.
Step 3 All the Accountability
Joining a group with a common goal is a great way to stay on track. Find a group who encourages your new mindset. Wanna go Plant Based? Join the facebook page here: Kickin’ Vegan Facebook Page
To take it one step further, find someone in the group who you can check in with every day. This will keep you both on track, and watch how the two of you rise to the top of the challenge! A buddy to check in with can help you reach amazing goals. I have a girl I check in with every day without fail. As a matter of fact, I’m finishing this blog post right now because I know I have to check in with her and I won’t show my face without having it done.
She and I are both in a group of goal setters that meets online every week, and we post our commitments and our progress on the facebook page to make sure we get it done! Don’t have a group? Search for one online, facebook and meetup have groups for anything you can imagine. Start your own group, make a page on facebook, it’s so easy. You can make a group for people who run in your neighborhood. Share trails, miles, walks, whatever.
Make sure you aren’t coming up with a story about why you can’t. You will make your story true. So tell a great story. Then Live it. Right now. You can be the character that gets the result before you get the result. As a matter of fact, it’s vital to the success of reaching the goal.
Go Out There and Win Win Win, No Matter What!
Now that you have an action list to get your head set straight, tell your head one more thing: No Matter what. You are a winner. Write it on your mirror, stick post-it notes everywhere, say it loud, put on your favorite jams and dance it out. You are a Winner, A Goal Crusher. A Life Liver. Why? Because you’ll do it no matter what. No Matter what. No Matter What!!!!
Share this post with anyone and everyone you know who could use a boost of goal setting juice. Send it to the people you want to create a group with. Send it to your Mom and BFF who you got weird with. Let people know whee you are coming from and never ever apologize or shrink. Like Brene Brown said: “Do not shrink do not puff, Just stand your sacred ground.”
Amen to that, Brene.